We dwell⦠until the cows come home. Anxiously attached women dwell, ruminate and ride the emotional rollercoaster of emotions. My day Getting Through This Email Series takes you through every single one of these in more in-depth and in a way that feels motivating and natural for you as an anxiously attached woman. Details here. Trusting their guts. But we can stay so long that we lose trust in our own perception and end up crushing our souls as a result.
The real reason we stay longer than we should in relationships. Those of us anxiously-attached, we have an undercurrent fear of abandonment , which is why we stay longer than we do, and settle for less than we deserve in a lot of cases.
We can get easily breadcrumbed while dating, because any attention is good attention to us as a result of being emotionally starved as children. We can make a simple text from our ex mean that he wants us back and that we consider any small gesture he does as something meaningful because we are starved of what healthy and proper work actually looks like.
Getting extra support through the emotional rollercoasters. The more we talk to people who are willing to listen from a place of love, the more we feel safe trusting ourselves.
Finding validation and support from people who have been in their shoes who might have an anxious attachment style too. Putting their important time and energy into themselves now since that is not first nature to them. We anxiously-attached ladies need to learn to love ourselves whole-heartedly, and start from scratch. You could be 40 or 50 reading this with 3. About time you see that. These really are just five of the most important things for you to start thinking about as you work through your breakup.
