After a while of him trying to cuddle me, I politely asked him to leave. Afterward he sent me overtly sexual messages, and I asked him to stop contacting me, at which point he lashed out, called me names, and commented on my weight. Blocked him. A couple weeks later, I logged into the app, and he came up as I was swiping, claiming my neighborhood as where he lived and even posting a pic of the view from my balcony.
I reported everything to Hinge, and they very quickly took care of it, as he violated the user agreement with the name calling. I explained that I live in the building and I needed to get to my dog, who was in my apartment. Once they realize the apartment that the man was trying to break into was MY apartment, I had officers escort me upstairs to get my dog and bring me to an animal-friendly hotel. I had to stay there until I was able to speak with detectives.
They arrested this man and charged him with aggravated stalking, aggravated harassment, and attempted breaking and entering. They also granted me a restraining order. I had to move as a result. I obviously declined for safety reasons and he stood me up twice. I explained to him kindly I can't trust his word and I won't go to his house. Fast-forward three hours and he is not taking no for an answer; he is convincing me to come over to his place.
When he finally figured out that wouldn't work, he started calling me profanities and insulting me. He bombarded my phone to the point where I couldn't use it β calling, texting, Facebook messaging me, sending messages on Tinder. This lasted all night from 9 p. I turned my phone off so I could sleep. I then turned my phone on the next morning to find hundreds of messages just calling me names β voicemails of threats and name calling.
The last text he sent was an apology for his outbursts and how he really wants to see me. I blocked him on Facebook, blocked his phone number, and reported him on Tinder for abusive behavior. It was the most unhinged Tinder meet I have ever met. He was absolutely terrifying. Would you like to go home or the hospital? I felt very badly for him, but it also shows you never know who someone is online.
