By Jessie Sage. The term "demisexual" was coined in on the forums of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network AVEN , but it's only been in the last year or so that I started to see it commonly embraced as an identity, especially on social media platforms and dating apps.
In simple terms, demisexual is used to describe folks who do not experience a strong sexual attraction to someone unless or until they form an emotional bond with them. Is this really remarkable? Enough to be an identity marker?
So, I asked some folks who identify as demi to tell me how they experience their own sexuality and how they relate to the label. Christina G, a graduate student in the mental health field, also has come to realize that her sexual attraction is different from that of many of her peers. Dulcinea, a professional dominant, has had similar experiences. I wanted all of the beautiful, romantic aspects of having a boyfriend.
The word demi itself means half. In this context, someone who is demisexual is somewhere halfway between sexual and asexual. And yet, as Dulcinea points out, demisexuals enjoy sex, just sex within particular contexts.
Calista Roxxx, an adult entertainer and performance artist, says that while she enjoys sex and makes a living from it , she needs much more of a connection in her personal sex life.
