Please create an account or log in to access all these features. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Right, I have what will seem a weird question. Can I start by apologising for jumping in the deep end with this but, but needs be as the devil drives. I am 54 and have been happily married since I was 22, so I feel blessed.
Kids have grown up and flown the nest, I have managed to forge a new well paid career after a period of illness cost me my old line of work. Life is looking good, or it was. The first bombshell to drop on our lives was 12 months ago when my husband sustained a back injury that has left him with big mobility problems.
I want to stress that his health and wellbeing are my priority, so when I tell you the other big thing that has come from his injury, please don't think that it has changed my love for him. In a nutshell, sex between us is now impossible.
That's fine, I can cope. However, from day one of us realising that this was the case, hubby has been insistent that I cannot do without sex the rest of my life.
I, on the other hand, have been insistant that I could and would do without it. Monognomy has always been non negotiable in my life. I wasn't pretending that it would be easy, but hey ho. Then the second bombshell dropped. I was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was caught very early and it was a very tiny 16mm lump.
