Oh, the joys of a one night stand. Be it a chance encounter on a night out or the gratifying end to a few hours of drudgery on a dating app , these hookups can be easy and exciting ways to satisfy carnal desires with no strings attached. But they can also lead to complicated emotions. It started with one night, and we kept seeing each other more often. Sarah said she mostly has one night stands to fulfill momentary physical needs or to make a night out more interesting, so she could have a story to tell her close friends.
Still, catching feelings is always on, or under, the table. Indeed, the intense emotions that come with having a one night stand can make people feel like they want something more long-lasting.
Gea Gea explained that when people catch serious feelings for a casual hookup, they may be ignoring the reality of the situation, perhaps to get more out of it. One night stands can lead to long-term, meaningful, committed relationships, if all parties are open to that. At certain points in their lives, some people may also find that catching feelings after one night stands is inevitable, which can lead to painful patterns.
For these people, Gea Gea said it may be worthwhile to consider this question: What do they get to feel or believe about themselves by catching feelings?
The answer is likely to be that they are somehow undeserving of being loved and chosen, or something to this effect.
