As AI becomes normalised, propelling what was formerly sci-fi towards the everyday, humans are increasingly forming relationships with non-humans. AI is developing at warp speed. Old hat. This makes practical sense on many levels β in Japan , robots have long been used to assist in care facilities for older people; in America, the use of robots is also increasing in nursing homes, especially since covid. Robots can lift people in and out of bed, lead exercise classes, and even tell jokes.
But can they provide fulfilling relationships with us? Or does forming a bond with an intelligent non-human make us even more separated from actual humans, and therefore less tolerant and accepting of what makes us messy, flawed humans in the first place?
Could bonding with AI make us less lonely, or will we end up twice as isolated? Will they aggravate misogyny if some men choose 21st-century versions of Stepford Wives over real women? Warm, caring, empathic, humorous, self-deprecating β but never moody, cranky, miserable, aggressive. And we get to programme their personalities, appearance, and interests, to suit our preferences.
AI is already part of dating, ostensibly to help users find their best match. The difference is that agentic AI is responsive β it listens, remembers, and evolves alongside us. In other words, more fun, less complicit.
In terms of whether these platforms can alleviate or exacerbate loneliness, Mancey says they have the potential to do both. It is an emotional support tool and can be used to supplement human relationships.
