Health Promotion. Accessed 31, Jan. Why am I getting erections so frequently?. Go Ask Alice! I am a twenty-one-year-old virgin who has just recently started seeing a girl very seriously. I am frustrated at how my body reacts to the slightest physical stimulus.
Holding hands, talking about physical affection, even thinking about kissing gives me an erection. I am not thinking about sex, and we are not going to have sex until we are married, but I can't believe how frequent these erections are. I know it's common for guys my age to have erections, but just being with a girl I care about gives me one, and it's not easy to hide, and I don't want her to think the wrong thing.
I used to masturbate and view pornography a lot but I finally stopped because I didn't agree with it. I stopped about the same time I met her. Do you think that my past is causing my body to want something I'm not going to give it?
Ahh⦠classic reflections on erections. Simply put, the answer to your question is no. Neither your past masturbation and porn viewing, nor your decision to stop sexually stimulating yourself is directly causing your erections.
These uninvited arousals may be frustrating, but your body is simply paying attention to emotional and physical stimulation. For sure, releasing your sexual energy by choosing to masturbate may reduce the frequency of your erections β but that decision is entirely up to you. It may also be worth thinking through how you and your girlfriend feel about erections and masturbation. Keeping your feelings to yourself could lead you to only feel more emotionally and sexually frustrated.
