The first thing I remember really liking about him was how cute he was when he was trying to be serious. Conversation came easily between us. He put his hand around my hips and pulled me closer to him, earlier than was appropriate, later than I would have wanted. Is that too intense? I reckon sitting next to you would make the three hours go a lot quicker. I might not have been so bothered if this were an isolated incident. But the same thing happened a couple of weeks ago with a work colleague.
And before him the teacher guy , the hippie guy, the guy who I already sort of knew because we met at the pub with mutual friends, but then also matched on Hinge In previous columns , I put this behavior down to the way men tend to gamify sex. That their tendency to lose interest swells up and encompasses more of their being than I thought.
Like the only way they know how to interact with women is by overpromising and then disappearing. They are really interested in the moment and then just Nothing sticks.
Should some professor do some research on this or something before it becomes even more endemic? I asked a male friend who goes on a lot of dates with a lot of women why he thinks men are so flaky. He said it was worth considering the reasons why a guy might have gone out with someone in the first place, so listed those along with corresponding reasons why they might lose interest:.
Despite the date going super well, his heart was never really in it. This happened loads during lockdown, and then as soon as things opened up, people left their lockdown girlfriends. So, although he appeared to be into you on the date, it was only to make you more interested in him. Bit psychotic, right? You asked him out and he was too weak to say no at the time so went on the date and humored you but never saw you as someone to pursue seriously. He really was interested in dating you, and although you had a good time on the date, there was something small that made him not want to be with you.
