Or maybe you want him to suffer a little bit, fair enough. This is a must whether you want him back or you want to get over him. You must cut off all contact. Studies have found that continuing contact with an ex can disrupt emotional recovery.
So you basically cause yourself to be stuck in the same vulnerable, miserable place. You need time and space to detox from it all. Your impulse control is way down after a breakup, which can cause you to do things that sabotage your chances of getting what you truly want, which is to get your ex back or maybe to move on completely. This will also jackhammer your self-esteem into the ground. This is not what we want here. Now he can feel what that really means. You are worth more than that.
It feels counterintuitive if you want him, and whenever I give this advice to my coaching clients I can see the immediate resistance on their faces. But it must be done. You have to remember you can live without him. You have to get back in touch with yourself, remember you?
I bet you lost a lot of yourself in this relationship… the end of a relationship can absolutely swallow you whole. So check in with you- how are you doing? What is it you need? Is it possible to get him back? If not, then history is just going to repeat itself.
A relationship on the decline can deplete you. Your time away from him is the equivalent of a can of spinach for Pop-Eye, it will help make you strong again.
